
We were getting ready to go to dance class. "I don't think I can go," she said. She sat down and cried. "My tooth is going to fall out and I might lose it." It stuck out at a strange angle from her mouth.
I sat down next to her on the hall steps. "Then we won't go," I said. "It's wise sometimes to do only one thing at once, and today you are working on letting go of that tooth."
"I just want to be with my family."
"I know what you mean."
Losing a tooth is a big life change. Sometimes it makes her sad. You can't go back, you get these giant teeth, you can never have your little ones again. All the tragic things about growing up surface with tooth-shedding.

For me the day was about eyes.
I went to a vision therapist to see what he'd say about my glasses prescription.
"You don't really need them," he said. "You could do exercises and improve your vision to a point where you'd hardly wear glasses. Trouble is, you'd lose some of your near vision after a point."
We discussed my options: keep the glasses I have, do exercises and improve my vision, get progressively weaker glasses, lay off the exercises if something near and dear to me loses focus.
"If you told me you were going to spend the next year sailing around the world, I'd say do the exercises and get your distance vision back."
Not hardly. I read. I write. I use a computer. I look at my family members' faces a lot, and they're usually nearby.
"There's a reason why so many accountants are near-sighted," he said. "And farmers are far-sighted."
Huh.
I had a strong momentary urge never to sit before a computer again. To a friend on the phone I said, "Maybe someone would hire me to scan the horizon." I don't see myself sailing or farming, but good distance vision sounds important in some primal or metaphoric sense.
Maybe I need to spend more time trying to see what is far away.
My eyes changed some time when I was in my early twenties. A friend and I were at a student film festival at NYU. When the titles started rolling, in the bellicose New York way I was working hard at, I shouted, "FOCUS! Hey, yo, FOCUS!"
My friend said "Shhhh! That IS in focus. Quit shouting like that!"
I still want my eyesight back. Could I really get better? Yes, the doctor said. How much? Like, without my glasses, could I maybe, watch a movie?



